Sunday Bulletin – October 26

Autumn on Hampstead Heath

I think for the rest of the year I’ll return to my Sunday Bulletins if you don’t mind. It will guarantee that I post every week and helps me to focus. My mind is wandering these days and I am dreaming of new opportunities, goals and plans for my career and my life. Most of this year has been frustrating and disappointing for me, but England put sparkle and vibrancy back into my soul and I am straining to keep it there.

I’ll also post more pictures of my trip in between Sundays.

This week my book club held our October meeting and we discussed We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson. We had a good talk about unreliable narrators, stifling small towns and belief in superstition. Next month we’ll discuss Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro.

I recently finished reading a book I bought in London –  Good Evening, Mrs. Craven: the Wartime Stories of Mollie Panter-Downes. I loved these short glimpses (some just a few pages) into the lives of normal, middle-class people as they stumble along through their days while the shadow of war taints everything around them. The frank, realistic and honest tone of the stories felt so authentic and believable to me. Yet they’re not bleak; they are reassuringly human and often  quite funny. It is one of my favorite books of 2014.

It might be a bit early to start thinking about Christmas music, but I’m already pondering what albums to purchase this year. I think this one might make the list.

I hope you have a great Sunday!

Book Group: The Daughter of Time by Josephine Tey

daughter of time

Last month my book group discussed The Daughter of Time, a 1951 mystery novel with a twist. Inspector Grant is in the hospital with a back injury, bored out of his mind, when a friend brings him an intriguing case: Did Richard III really murder his young nephews, the famous “Princes in the Tower”?

Using as many primary sources as he can have his friends track down he goes about breaking apart the case in his mind and comes to the conclusion that Richard III was very different from the king portrayed by Shakespeare and in popular history.

I thought this book would generate a hearty discussion and it mostly did. However, about half of the group had never heard of Richard III and, therefore, the emotional impact of Grant’s deductions didn’t hit them as hard as it did others. I think this book would be more suited to book groups whose members are history buffs, Anglophiles or fans of historical fiction. Or English people.

How would I rate this as a book group choice? I’d give it a 3/5 rating.

What I’ve Learned From Starting My Own Book Group

Some of my book group’s past and future book selections.

In March 2013 I held the first meeting of my book discussion group. I’ve enjoyed the monthly meetings so much over the past year that I encourage everyone to either join a group or start your own. Here are some things I’ve learned from starting my own:

1. It’s good to have a mix of people you know really well and those you don’t know very well (or at all). – When I started my book group I put a general invitation on Facebook inviting friends and acquaintances to join me for monthly meetings. Several good friends responded, which was expected, but I also had a couple of people who I didn’t know quite as well express interest. And then one of my friends asked if she could bring a friend of hers who was totally unknown to me and our group was born. The mix of different perspectives and backgrounds is invigorating and through the discussions I’ve gotten to know people so much better. I’m glad that we have a diverse circle of women.

2. A book group needs a leader. – My original vision for the book group was for us all to take turns choosing books and leading the discussions, but I quickly learned that the members looked to me for direction and organization. I’ve seen this with the book groups at the library as well. There always needs to be that one person who takes charge and if you’ve started the book group that person is probably going to be you.

3. Most people attend for the conversation and company – not for the book. – Yes, it is a book group, but it’s also a social outlet and escape (especially for the busy moms). Don’t be too adamant about sticking to literary talk. Let people tell stories, vent and share their lives. Sometimes the personal conversation is more interesting than the book discussion! The book is a starting point for connection and community and is a tool for sparking important and stimulating discussion that sometimes leaps beyond the pages – and that is wonderful.

4. Decide how you want the group to be organized from the beginning – but it’s okay to change things along the way. – As I mentioned above my original intent was for the members of the group to take turns choosing books and leading the discussion, but after a while I could tell this approach wasn’t working. I then compiled a list of books and we took a vote on what to read, but sometimes there was disagreement that delayed the decision. A few months ago I picked books for the rest of the year so that we can spend the majority of the meeting discussing the book and chatting and not arguing over what to read for the next month. If you lead the group you can decide what direction the book selection and discussions take to make it a better experience for all.

5. Don’t get discouraged if attendance wanes. There have been several months when only one or two people are able to attend the meeting. In January I got very discouraged after several months of low attendance and was on the verge of disbanding. The very next meeting, however, everyone attended and I realized that people have lives and there’s no need to fret. You can still have a really good discussion with just three people – and there’ll be more cookies to go around.

6. It’s okay if not everyone who attends has read the book or even if no one has read the book. – For our April discussion only one out of five of us had read the book! We had that one person give us a book report and then moved on to discussing life and kids and work. It was still a great meeting and the book wasn’t neglected…just slightly ignored.

7. Be thoughtful about selecting books, but don’t stress about it too much. – In the beginning I agonized over picking just the right books for discussion. Then I realized (as discussed above) that the book was not as important as I thought it was. The book is not the star, just a very valuable supporting player. However, I do take into account everyone’s tastes and dislikes and try not to pick books that I know someone will hate or object to. I also choose books that are out of my range of interests; otherwise we’d read Barbara Pym, Willa Cather or E.M. Forster every month and no one (except me) would be happy.

8. Treats aren’t as important as I thought they would be. – I’ve made desserts from scratch and bought them at the store and have learned that it doesn’t matter either way. People like sugar yet sometimes no one eats the dessert at all. There’s no need to slave over a layer cake every month or spend tons of money at the local bakery – unless you want to.

9. Be flexible and casual. If someone wants to come in their pajamas or is half an hour late they are welcome. The majority of the meetings are at my house and I want people to feel comfortable. I believe a relaxed environment leads to better discussions.

These are my observations, but I know every book group is different. If you belong to one, I’d love to hear what you’ve learned and how yours is organized.

What would you add to the list?